There are so many issues and questions going on here that it is hard to know were to begin. First, I have to say what your boyfriend is doing is the emotional abuse. He has not actually hit you, but has made a real threat. This can actually increase your thoughts of mistrusting him in other areas.

He may not like the suspicions, but I do not think that there is anyway that this can be seen as emotional abuse. If you are not using threat of harm or trying to demean him then it is not emotional abuse.

I’m not you so I can’t tell you exactly what is going on with you. If your thoughts of suspicion are nearly constant and interfer with daily life that may be an indication of anxiety or even OCD. Your emotional highs and lows are enought of an indicator to me that you should be seeking professional help.

You could even consider couples therapy for you and your boyfriend. However, my honest thoughts on anyone who even threatens violence is to get rid of them and fast. You never know when the threat will become an actual act.

Take this advice from someone who was married. After months of small fights over things like money and childcare he pulled a sword on me and threatened to kill me. I never gave him another chance to make real on his threat. He did this when I was three months pregnant and our toddler son was watching. You have to think about more than just your when you make these choices.

You both need to get away from each other. The relationship isn’t healthy for either one of you. As to who’s fault something is, you’re both at fault but you both have serious emotional problems and should seek counseling…alone, not as a couple. He has a problem with his anger and you have trust and insecurity problems. You both are at fault if you stay in this relationship.

If he hasn’t done anything for you to mistrust him then force yourself not to think up wild stories. Go somewhere stay busy while he works. Get yourself a life and quit sitting and waiting on doom. It will never change unless you do something about it. Get some counseling that is ok. It isn’t his place to take care of you. He evidently cares or he wouldn’t have put up with it. good luck sweetie! Find yourself and love you and everything else will fall into place

wow, i really feel for you. stay with him, it is sometimes hard for guys to deal with that. take a minivacation, get plenty of sunlight

Get out before he kills you