missyonalee asked:


I’m in intense need of help. . I have no other friends or family to turn to right now. . No one. I’m lost. .

Is this indeed emotional abuse? Or am I insane. . If it is an emotional abuse. . How do I decently get help?

My grandmother and grandfather who I lived with for years. . Have been emotionally unsupportive. . Cruel, and don’t understand a thing I have to say. Ever since I was little. . I was the child they never had before, the child they didn’t understand how to raise, the child that had the mental problems. . Ect. They’d go on the phone talking about what happened at school, or other embrassing things. My mother has had nothing to do with my life. . In the past 15 or so years. . Just off and on, she was addicting to drugs and sex. . And never got over it. . My father he has no place to live.. Constantly house jumping. . Charged of rape, women abuse, and drunk driving. . My grandma would always call them. . And give them info of my life then tell me they were going to come out here and take control of me. . Scaring me shitless. . My grandmother used to tell me she’d get me sent to juvie. . Sent to a mental ward, or even sent to a foster home because I wouldn’t listen. . I understand they have pain and problems because of age. . But when my health. . Dental health. . Self esteem .. Social. . And education fall threw the roof and all they say is we did the best we can do and leave it alone. .for months. . They’ve gotten me to a point after I dropped out in 8th grade from not being able to handle the other kids.. Had too low of self esteem and large paranoia. . They basically make me fight and yell at them while they act innocent. . Then they’ll try to softly push past me, and when I say no . . they’ll tell me I’ll be sent to jail. . Because their the one’s trying to “ softly “ force me to move. . And then get me so emotionally upset if I hit them. . It’s my fault. . . Everytime I try to get them to help me get something done, or get the house finished and livable. . Get the mold out of the sink. . Get to the dentist. . They just say I was going to do it. . [ enter date here ] and they never were. They always make me the blame, and then say they don’t. . that I’m not the blame. But they say the reason they have high stress and can’t clean is because when I’m going to yell at them. . They tell me I don’t love them, I don’t care about anyone else but myself. . And that’s not true! I love them more than they love me. . I feel horrible inside. . Everytime I try to get an answer. . . Or money. . Or even sometimes to go to a friend. . If I start crying and trying to get my way so I can have some freedom they’ll go inside my grand fathers room/upstairs you’ll hear them talking about how I just want to fight, and how I want to cause problems. . And hurt them. . And all that. I even start to name call them. . And have threatened them a few times. . But sadly it’s not me anymore, but I have no idea how to get an answer, or how to get anything solved without it. . I just did in there for months rotting in my room with no answer. . No solution. . The house is filthy, they tell me I’m 15 and I should clean it. . I should clean the bathroom. . I should this. . They pin everything on me. . They say I have no real emotional problems, and say they do. . And then they bring up their/our family members dying/cancer/problems as why they don’t feel like reminding me for a week I have an appointment. . My body pain. . My emotional pain is unimportant to them. . They think I’m able to do everything for myself. . That I’m emotionally able. . If not it’s alligator tears. . They deny ever saying that. . But they did for years..

I love living in my room, with a freely able to use laptop/internet. . . Which is why I’m scared to get a foster home/replacement home. . Also, there’s other things of acceptance like. . I’m almost 16, in 5 months. There’s a guy I like, and we know we have chemistry because of our life and experiences under emotional abuse. . That we’d do good after I was eighteen .. I’m going to work for 2 years for atleast 30,000 dollars to move there with him. . But after I told my grandmother. . [ I can’t lie. ] She told me she’d have him put in jail for luring me to move in with him. . [ that’s not the case, we had decided if we both feel the same when I’m 18, I’ll go there at my own will. But, we like playing games like fly for fun, world of warcraft. . And other mmorpgs together until then. ] Would a foster parent understand all this? Or would it be another controlling and opinion problem?

Bruce

Zodiac *sagittarian* Man asked:


I know that there are some women who think that abuse from a man
has to be a threat only when it is physical. But that is not true at
all. Let me break this down to you. Emotional abuse can be just as
deadly and draining as physical. Why ? Because when you are
being verbally assaulted day in and day out, or talked down to like
a dog. Then you suffer from it internally, and psychologically.
It takes a toll on your health as well. And mentally you get to a place
where you do not know how to function normally in your daily life.
If you see yourself as nothing, then you will treat yourself as nothing.
Which means that one can get involved heavily into self destructive
behavior. Such as drugs, illicit sex, and alcohol. And some victims
of this abuse are sometimes suicidal. But it does take a toll on your
health, mainly your heart. Emotional abuse can cause you to go into
a deep, dark depression as well. If it persists, you become what
people call an outcast, or a shell of a person. Because you are now
immobilized, and living in doubt and fear. Emotional abuse paralyzes
one to the point where they may not even recognize their own self. Or even worse, are unable to function with the usual daily activities.
Are you with me ? Now my question is this. As you know that stress
is the number 1 killer, and this is the catalyst to serious illnesses,
that can dwell inside one for life. Why do some women think that
emotional abuse is not as legitimate as physical ?
>>> I mean why do some women think
that EMOTIONAL abuse is not as legitimate as PHYSICAL <<<<<<<

Sorry for that error. But you get what
I am saying................
Divina. Thanks. But I don't need an
English teacher my dear. I say things
the way I want to say them like everyone
else on here. By the way you must really
be bored to death. Out here correcting
people like that. Life must really suck
for you. I mean, is it that bad. I heard
of people who like attention. But you
are the definition of a disgruntled
"housewife".................. =)
Divina. You sound like a spoiled, rotten,
brat. Who cares about you anyway.
It is obvious, you need some psychological help. Go see a doctor.
You need one............

Jamie