Lanley asked:


I’m 24 and I dated a man who basically had a fake relationship with me for almost 3 years. Just recently I stopped the abuse, and decided to seriously care about myself for a change. However, the relationship has left me with a whole mess of problems, mainly emotional, but i’ve also lost friends, effected my credit negatively, dropped a years worth of college classes, and lost my job, all while trying to manage and find SOME bit of normalcy in the relationship. It was a NIGHTMARE. I feel like I have screwed up my life to an extent now. And I hate myself because I can’t get those times or chances back. I don’t know what to do now. I feel so broken, lost, and low. I know my self esteem has been greatly effected by all the mess and deceiving in the relationship. What do I do now? How do I move on from such a disaster of an experience? I thought we were serious…..it was so unhealthy, he moved half of his belongings into my apt, thinking we were going to be living together, and he also tried to get me pregnant. Neither were successful.

I need help…..anyone have any ideas? The word SOCIOPATH describes my ex to a T by the way.

Kohan