you should leave and not look back, abuse is any form is unacceptable, no one should be treated the way you are being treated, leave him, divorce him, you can do better, and have a better life,don’t wait he may hurt you even worse

Listen babydoll,you don’t need to take that kind of abuse from anybody.The guy to me sounds like he needs some serious help that u can’t give him.You seriously need to get out and find somebody that’ll take care of u and your baby.If he refuses to get help then it’s not worht it.There are better people out there.

You need to leave but be in a safe place. Dont know if your family is around, but you need to move in with family.

You need to call a lawyer - most will do free consulations so you can get some good solid advice.

Restraining order is needed.

Understand, it does take time for meds to work and to get the right dose. He does need counseling and maybe not on an outpatient basis. But if he doesnt do it for himself, you can not do it for him.

Don’t feel guilty. You don’t deserve this and as you’ve said, you’ve done all you can. Get out, save yourself and the child. If he can turn it around later and make things work, great, but for now you don’t want to be around when he snaps and injures/kills. Get out. Get help. Find an organization that helps battered women, because you are one.

What is he depressed about anyway?..that he hasn’t kill you yet. It is time that you move on now, when the man you love, and the father of your child, is suppose to protect you is wanting to pound your face into the wall, breaking phones what next the BABY, maybe YOU, that he will be breaking. This man is mental and you can no longer help him.. it is up to him to resume the responsibility for his actions. Your child needs protection so do you, and you need to leave before someone gets hurt in the worst kind of way. Dear heart I feel you are in danger with your child living with a time bomb waiting to explored at anytime, so it is in your rights as a parent to protect your child as well as yourself. Let him fix him.. it is not up to you anymore, once he cross the line with violence, and threats you now owe him.. NOTHING. Good Luck…And Get….OUT.

get away from him NOW. i speak from experience,with a partner i put up with for 5 years ofphysical and mental abuse. they use every excuse they can, from a bad childhood, to blaming you for what ever they are suffering from. most of the time, its not anti-depresants that they need, its councilling, and even councilling is a long shot. its easier for them just to keep popping pills for depression, instead of getting down to the real reasons for their bad tempers and insecurities. please listen to what i now say… people like this, NEVER EVER CHANGE!! it will only get worse, and his next step will be physical abuse, belive me. i never had young children at the time(thank god) but if he can threaten you while you have yours in your arms, then that has to tell you something at least. you have your childs welfare to think of as well as your own, so that should give you more reason to leave. if he says that it will never happen again, or says that he needs you there cus of his depression, dont fall for it please, this is just emotionall blackmail to get you to stay. dont you dare feel guilty, you have nothing to feel guilty about. put it this way, would you feel more guilty if your child got hurt in the cross fire?then there is your answer. if you need someone to talk to, you can always e.mail me. make your dicission now, and get out, before its too late.

I’m currently on an antidepressant, and I have had experience with a few of them over the last 25 years. Normally, I take the medication for a couple of months and then I’m OK to be off of it for several months before my depression comes back.

What I would like to stress is that if his medication is not “strong enough” then he needs to make a follow up visit to the doctor to get the dosage adjusted. Medications almost always come in a range of recommended doses.

Check out this information:
“It should be noted that, while the maximum recommended dose for moderately depressed outpatients is also 225 mg/day for Effexor, more severely depressed inpatients in one study of the development program for that product responded to a mean dose of 350 mg/day (range of 150 to 375 mg/day). “

You are doing the right thing. He is threatening to do things to you and he’s thrown things at you while your holding the baby…. It is not about you and him anymore. You have to think about your child and the child’s safety, as well as yours..

It sounds like he’s not really serious about getting better, if he doesn’t take his pill so he can drink… So, don’t let him make you feel guilty about anything.. It’s the worse thing you can do… Men who are verbal & Physically abusive always try to find ways and say things to make the victim feel guilty, so many of them stay, but then the situation only gets worse….
(I know, I have experienced it) Please make a better life for you and your child….

You need to be treated with respect and love.. Eventually in life you will find that special someone. Don’t settle for any less then what you deserve….

Good Luck and God Bless!

Sometimes, even if it seems wrong, the best thing that you can do is to leave. I am not encouraging that you divorce this person, I am encouraging you to separate yourself from him, because your life is not in balance at all. Please decide for yourself whether or not you can commit to being with him for life, through better or worse-because right now you are definitely experiencing “worse”. His behavior towards you is not right, he should not treat you like that, and you do not have to take it. But, before you call it quits on the marriage, ask yourself this question: If he gets the help he needs, real help, and does heal and change, would you stay with him? He is an abuser, but I have seen and witnessed abusers get help, and change. I have witnessed marriages and families heal from the very thing you describe. Of course, it is still all on him-you can’t fix the situation. You can only support him while he is in therapy-maybe even committed. Maybe a total mental breakdown is what he needs to happen, I know how that sounds, but sometimes, rock bottom is what it takes. Just be sure that you are SAFE. I still encourage you to get in touch with your local domestic violence services if you have not already done so. And whatever you are going to do, please do it quickly. If you hang around there, and he continues to dwell on it, you may be in the eye of the storm so to speak. If you are going, get out. You can figure out if divorce is necessary after you are out, but your safety and that of your child is the most immediate consideration.

LEAVE. he is going to hurt you . take this info by some one who has been there. your child will be better off with out all the abuse. all he wants from you is a crutch. i bet when he is around you do things for him and don’t get any thing in return. all you get is problems. you can go on with your life with out him. don’t expect him to help you with child support. he sounds like he won’t. please leave before you get in serious trouble. i was single after 14 years with abuse. i had three kids. there where times that i didn’t eat for three days just so my kids could get some thing to eat. i didn’t know that i had so many friends. they helped me get threw some of the worst times. even my kids friends family helped me out. so you see you can make it with out him. leave his sorry a….s