LOVE YOURSELF - ABUSERS? AVOID THEM!
AyannaNaeela asked:
Ladies! Love Yourself. Educate and protect yourself from an abusive situation, in your home, on the job, in the streets. … Abuse “Abusive Relationships” “Love yourself” “natural Emotional Abuse” “Physical Abuse” “Mental Abuse” “Psychological Abuse” Sociopaths Narcissists Bipolar “Domestic Violence”
Patricia
Tags: Bipolar, Mental Abuse
June 2nd, 2009 at 2:57 pm
Vicki
oh, what beautiful advice you gave ayanna!!!!
i so wish you could be my friend “for real”…lol! i think we could all use a good person/friend in our lives like u.
the dialogue between u and naturalbutterfly was very touching….
June 5th, 2009 at 4:34 am
Harrison
THANKS for sharing that with us, we’ve just about all been there before, so we know just how devastating and long-term the consequences are(when we remain in that vicious cycle) with an abuser. The insults, overt or covert are designed to work on(with full intentions) of breaking down one’s self-esteem. Once that happens, then you’re vulnerable to other types of abuse–that just sets an abusers wheels in motion. The relationship will be over and the effects will become emotional baggage.
June 7th, 2009 at 3:07 pm
Pauline
U put yourself out there and u told the naked truth.
I understand about the “broken spirit”. For a period of time, I was completely self destructive. Ppl I surrounded myself with, etc., the whole 9 yds.
This was brave of u to come out like this.
True, ppl on the outside don’t feel what u feel.
I have more to tell u but not here.
God bless u Sis!
June 10th, 2009 at 8:43 am
gwyneth
I don’t think it’s a question of loving pain… People tend to say that when they are on the outside and have never been in it. it’s not the reason I stayed. I was in love with my abuser and I began to believe that I was somehow deserving of his treatment — all part of the mental manipulation. Once your spirit is broken you can believe anything
Unless you have actually been in this situation it’s not easy to understand.
June 13th, 2009 at 8:24 pm
Greg
Remember, everyone is on their best behavior when they 1st meet. 1st impressions r important, but do not be decieved by them either.
If a person is an idiot, u can not change them. Nothing u can do will change them.
If u love pain, u can continue to try.
This Sister is telling the truth.
June 16th, 2009 at 6:45 am
Paul
great response!!!!
June 18th, 2009 at 2:32 pm
Vicki
this is so true i had just got out of this kind of relationship..
June 20th, 2009 at 7:05 pm
Jade
“What’s Love Got to Do With It” Tina Turner…we always want to try to change some man or people like they are a pet project. I love this vid. You hit these type of people right on the money!!
June 20th, 2009 at 9:53 pm
Pauline
Girl I hear you on that. My parents have a great marriage, I was raised in a great home. I don’t know HOW I ended up in that. My mother used to tell me the same thing. Now I know better.
June 22nd, 2009 at 4:51 pm
Tyler
Thanks you for this video. I have never been in a abusive relationship. My parents told me the didn’t give birth and raise me to get the worse in life BUT the best and I stuck to that.
LOVE DOESN’T HURT!
I hope a lot of other women watch this, young AND old.
Never make a man your priority when you are only their option.
June 24th, 2009 at 9:42 pm
Greg
I hear you, I got out just when things were getting a little physical.. slapping of the face with one hand while the other was clenched in a fist. I looked at that fist and was like, one day that fist is gonna connect with my face… Time to go!!!
June 26th, 2009 at 12:41 pm
And Baby Girl, the singing sweetly and brown eyes… I’ve known those. My abuser was a fellow musician, he played piano and sang and knew how to be romantic occasionally but only to get you RIPE for the picking. Build you up so when you get broken down, you have HARD fall. Keep in mind that’s part of the Bi Polar thing too.
Do you girl. You are a great woman. Look for that great man! Let Brother take you out. Even if he isn’t the “one” he’s a step in a good, positive direction.
Ayanna =)
June 29th, 2009 at 1:21 am
Pauline
NB22,
I am soooo relieved to hear that. I thought about you ALL yesterday hoping that you would get my message.
I’m really sorry you had to see that as a child, what happened with your mom. My parents have a loving marriage to this day and yet I still ended up in this thing. It’s the innocence and youth and idealism that gets a woman caught in that. Your mom was only trying to do the right thing and eventually got to deep in. Some never get out. I was fortunate!
June 30th, 2009 at 2:41 am
Maxine
sometimes we’re in a little corner together and he looks at me with those big, brown eyes, and just talks to me so softly… but that’s not it. he has a beautiful voice (he sings 2 me) and i just melt away.
but that’s all to reel me in. Girl, once again, you’ve opened my eyes. Thanks so much for sharing this with me. It means so much. You’ve stopped me from making probably the biggest mistake of my life.
ntrlbttrfly22
June 30th, 2009 at 7:20 pm
Jade
firstly, im so sorry you went through all that. it really is scary. my mom actually married my dad despite the circumstances, and up until she died, he made our lives hell. but she’d never divorce him. she loved him too much. i guess im taking my cue from her.
but i have to learn from her mistakes. I really love this video. You have opened my eyes. I can’t believe it…your senario fits perfectly
July 1st, 2009 at 1:02 am
Brian
girl you know exactly how to say what needs to be said! kudos and I wish you the best on your therapy/moving on
sounds like you’re doing great
July 3rd, 2009 at 10:12 am
Harrison
Great video Ayanna! You could not have presented your points any better. And what many young ladies don’t know is that people who have that type of abusive temperament was probably, at one point in time, a nice person. And just like you said, you might enter the relationship with a ‘kill em’ with kindness’ attitude and end up leaving it with the same attitude of your abusive partner…
July 6th, 2009 at 2:00 am
Jade
Verbal/emotional abuse is just one step away from physical violence. It is often not a huge step for an abuser to take and it often happens. From past experiences, I know that in the future I will NEVER accept any form of abuse from someone that claims to love me.