Is this verbal abuse or just b/c he’s angry he can speak to me this way?
my boyfriend who is 27 years old and i were fighting. he called me a b*tch. he told me to shut the fu*k up and i’m fu*king annoying. i told him never to say those things to me and he said everyone curses when they’re mad and he said i deserved to be called that at that moment. i said so i’m a bit*h? and he said if i acted like one at that moment i deserve to be called that. he never called me that afterwards. but he did say to shut the f up and im f-in annoying a few more times. i never cursed at him nor called him names b/c i just had that respect. everyone raises their voice when they’re mad but he told me never to raise my voice. i tried to speak one time and he kept repeating “i’m the victim, i’m the victim over and over” while i was speaking so he didnt hear me. he said i’m mentally ill, i drive him away and i make him sick. he said he’s usually not like this to anyone and i bring this side of him out. i frustrate him so much.
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i ask him why he’s with me if i make him sick and i drive him away? and he said you’re right so he leaves me. but he calls me a week later and just plays with my emotions. i love him but he gives me a hard time. when we break up or he just leaves saying i make him sick, i try so hard to move on even though it’s hard. and then after a week or two of not calling he calls, i don’t pick up. he doesnt leave a message. then he doesnt call. what is he doing? playing games???? what do i do??? he told me i make him sick and i drove him away. last night he calls me a few times but doesnt leave a message. now he hasnt called and im looking at my phone. do i have to call him back? is he playing games with me? what is he doing??????????? plesse help me. i just turned off my phone b/c i kept looking at it thinking is he going to call. do i just move on?
also..he lies to me about talking to his ex-gf which i found out a different way. he said he did nothing wrong b/c nothing happened but he kept it a secret meeting her and talking to her. he tells me they dont talk anymore but i know they do. it’s been 2 days since we’ve broken up but seriously…what do i do? he’s playing games??
IS HE PLAYING GAMES, CALLING ME ONE NIGHT AND THEN DOESNT CALL ANYMORE???? SHAKING ME UP???
Vicki
June 9th, 2009 at 10:41 pm
Leighton
girlfriend–STAY AWAY from him! he is playing serious mind games with you…and yes it is a form of abuse. You will only wind up more hurt and confused if you continue on with him. Stay strong and stay back.
June 11th, 2009 at 3:25 am
Brian
He is playing mind games…
Honey, it’s time to put the trash where it belongs. Quit answering his calls. Leave him cold turkey. Especially since he is lying to you. No man should call you those names. Really. I can’t believe he said you were “f*cking annoying.” That is so rude. I’m sure he felt like SUCH a big man after saying that.
But yea, ignore his calls. Be strong. Don’t let him dangle you from a pair of sticks and strings. Be a strong woman, and ignore him, his calls, and put him out of your life. It’s time to move on and find something better for yourself. You deserve more than this.
June 13th, 2009 at 12:04 pm
Steve
Yes, he’s playing games! He sound VERY immature and he’s a jerk on top of it. Answer your phone and tell him you have moved on because you feel SO bad for making him be such a loser. And then seriously move on, it will only get worse!!
June 15th, 2009 at 3:06 pm
Bruce
Yes, it is abuse! He does not seem to have any respect for you and is trying to put you in your “place”. You are the mature one in this relationship, how much of his crap are you willing to take? Stand up for yourself every time he tries to play his game, nip this in the bud!
June 16th, 2009 at 5:32 pm
Bruce
Umm yeah. He might be a little crazy. My husband and I fight like crazy but never not once has he called me a b1tch. Furthermore, I would just let it go. It’s not worth your time sittin there stressin about it. It does seem like he’s playin games.
I would just ignore him. He seems like an a$$. He wants to talk a bunch of crap about how you frustrate him and what not, then let him be by himself… or with his ex since he’s so interested in talking to her.
June 18th, 2009 at 9:38 pm
Steven
Your boyfriend sounds very immature. What’s the point of being with someone who is only going to hurt your feelings? If you think it’s time to move on, then you should focus on his faults. (My ex boyfriend is too frickin nice to me, making it impossible to get over him). What you should really do is maybe call, possibly for the last time, and ask him what he wants from your future. If he is truly remorseful…see where it goes. If he continues to verbally abuse you, cut all ties and try to move on.