Archive for the ‘Psychology’ Category

 

What are the symptoms of mental abuse? Is trauma a result from mental abuse?

Wednesday, May 6th, 2009
robert f asked:


What are the symptoms of mental abuse? Is trauma a result of mental abuse? How does mental abuse affect people?

Gary

 

Alcohol Use, Abuse, Dependence, and Addiction

Monday, May 4th, 2009
Mary Barnes asked:


There are many types of alcohol consumption ranging from the healthy to the deadly. Some people of the prohibitionist persuasion will ague that any use is destructive, but neither medical research nor personal experience supports that conclusion. Unhappily, most “screening” protocols are heavily weighted towards a diagnosis of addiction justifying punitive treatment approaches and “abstinence only” outcomes. In reality, many different degrees of alcohol use exist, and the following thumbnail guide can be helpful in deciding what category is appropriate, and in predicating various – as well as usual - outcomes.

Healthy alcohol consumption has been found to be approximately two drinks of distilled spirits, two bottles of beer, or one half bottle of wine per day for an adult man, and half that for an adult women. These amounts confer the most health benefits without any associated detrimental effects. Obviously, not everyone consumes these set amounts, nor do most people who drink necessarily always stop at one or two. Certain social settings may find one consuming more over the duration of an event, for example, but the average should remain within the recommended parameters.

People who clearly fall into this category may, unfortunately, still find themselves in need of help. Particularly in child custody disputes, but in other legal matters as well, unfounded accusations are frequently hurled and difficult to refute. As John Donne noted, “Two things will be believed of any man whatsoever, and one is that he has taken to drink.”

Alcohol abuse is defined as consumption which consistently exceeds the recommended levels and/or is done in isolation rather than socially. Frequent contributing factors include loneliness, exhaustion, and a paucity of peers or activities. At this stage, remediation is common enough to be the norm, with a return to healthy use the usual outcome. Counseling may expedite the process and help with the underlying causes.

Clients who find themselves at this level can usually benefit from a process of assessment, skill building through Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and the adoption of non-alcohol related activities. As in more serious conditions to follow, the key lies in the creation of a life with reduced alcohol use that is more satisfactory than the current one. An onerous life, or a continued focus on alcohol, will nearly guarantee a return to misuse.

Alcohol dependence occurs after long periods of excessive use leading to social, physical, and emotional dependence. Drinking becomes a primary coping mechanism across multiple categories; for example, socially, recreationally, vocationally, and spiritually. Symptoms may include physical withdrawal following cessation, depression, increased isolation, significant weight gain, decreased liver function, and possible legal, financial, and/or employment problems. As multiple problems need attention, counseling can help with the reorganization, prioritization, and systematic accomplishment of necessary changes.

While a return to moderate or healthy use is normal, a period of abstinence, possibly one to two years, is recommended. Many people who do this never return to drinking at all, having successfully modified their lives in satisfactory ways.

Alcohol addiction, or alcoholism, results when a person’s physical, emotional, and psychological being is permeated by alcohol and its consumption. Distinct withdrawal symptoms – physical (i.e. tremors, seizures) and psychological ones (i.e. blackouts) – are present and alcohol related disintegration in several areas of life (i.e. financial, legal, vocational, marital, recreational, social, medical) is present. While approximately a third of diagnosed alcoholics return to moderate drinking, this is not generally recommended.

At this stage both medical and counseling help is usually necessary given the physical, social, emotional, and psychological aspects. Recovery prospects are uncertain at best and outcomes vary. As always, motivation, spousal support, and a belief in personal efficacy, as opposed to “powerlessness,” are the primary factors in success.

In general, alcohol problems of all magnitude are remarkable for both their persistence over time (being stabile rather than progressive) and their frequent spontaneous remission. While some individuals do follow a path from use to abuse to dependence to addiction, and death, they are the exception, not the rule.



Geoff

 

Is abuse — physical or psychological — ever “deserved”?

Saturday, May 2nd, 2009
Gina asked:


I am friends with a married couple. The husband is physically and mentally abusive — I have witnessed the terrible verbal abuse, and I know he has been arrested for domestic violence, and has even broken bones.

But if you sit down and talk to him, he makes it seem like it’s his wife’s fault. He says, “I may be mean to her, but I have a reason. She treats me so horribly — she is so mean to me — for no reason.” Even though I hate myself for it, and I feel as if I am being manipulated, I feel like maybe she makes his life miserable for him and he is just retaliating.

Is there ANY way she deserves his treatment of her — is it really, as he says, a two-way street?

Anne

 

Can a child recover from emotional abuse?

Friday, May 1st, 2009
notadom asked:


If a child is emotionally abused, told what to think and feel and say from the time he can talk, what does his future look like as an adult? Since it’s his mother doing the emotional abuse and he looks up to and trusts her what does that predict about his future relationships/marriage? His father and mother were never together and she has serious anger/resentment/jealousy issues and constantly tells the child that he hates his father, his father’s children (his half siblings), his stepmother and the whole other side of the family until this child is such an emotional wreck he can’t decide if he likes strawberry or raspberry jelly on his sandwich and says “What do you think my mom would want?” Is there hope? Does karma really work? Does prayer really work? We’ve been praying for over 6 years for his emotional health!! Will he someday realize how much WE love him and how HORRIBLE she is?
To be more specific, I am the stepmom, he lives with us part time. When he’s here he is relaxed, happy and when it’s time to go back to his moms he will say, “Can I please stay with you? Why do I have to go back?” He’s 7. We have never nor will we ever say anything negative about his mom but she fills his head constantly! She even told him - when he was 4 - that I was going to kill him in his bed. Lately I’ve noticed that he’s becoming much more attached to me - when I go to the grocery store he want to come with, sitting on my lap while watching a movie, etc - and I’m wondering if he’s subconciously trying to replace her with me? Or just grateful I give him affection and love without all the negativity? I think about this problem and him every single hour of every single day, I have lost so much sleep worrying about him and his future. Thank you guys for letting me get it all out! His dad is concerned also but won’t act on anything and I’m just the stepparent and don’t have much say.

Greg

 

Has psychological abused ruined your life? How so?

Wednesday, April 29th, 2009
robert f asked:


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Jade

 

How can you tell if he is capable of mental abuse?

Monday, April 27th, 2009
Denise asked:


Does anyone know early signs of a guy who is practiced at mental abuse? I know some people are really good at it, and say things and act a certain way….Please help.

Lee

 

can emotional abuse during childhood effect future relationships?

Monday, April 27th, 2009
? ? ? ? asked:


I always seem to be going for people who are emotionally unavailable, don’t commit emotionally to me, play hard to get (to the extreme) and who have narcisstic personalities. Could this be to do with the emotional abuse?

Jade

 

Discuss the view that social psychological research can be used and abused?

Saturday, April 25th, 2009
Kez asked:


Just need some help on the question.
More specifically looking at social influence research.
Any AS level psychology students please help!

Patricia

 

What would define verbal and emotional abuse is?

Friday, April 24th, 2009
sassylassy2876 asked:


What would consider to be verbal abuse and emotional abuse and would you not consider it to be?

Brian

 

What’s the difference between emotional and mental abuse?

Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009
Paksennarion asked:


Aren’t they the same thing? If someone is verbally abusing you is it emotional or mental or does it differ in certain situations.

Pauline