meg asked:


I posted a question about this same person earlier.
I’ve been deciding all day whether or not it’s a good idea to be her friend. But this thought came to mind. Is she really emotionally abusing me?
Ever since we’ve become good friends I’ve noticed that if I didn’t stay in some kind of boundary she seemed to draw and said something highly opinionated she’d become angry with me while she always says opinionated things and I rarely ever speak on the subject in a highly opinionated way for said reasons.
I can never give her constructive criticism because the only time I tried she was mad at me for two weeks.
She’s always trying to prove me wrong. It makes me feel kind of stupid. She’ll go around to people and ask the question and go
“haha see I was right” It seems like she’s kidding but it hurts my feelings.
Whenever we play fight she puts me in a headlock or puts her hands over my face and won’t let go. In front of peers. It embarrasses me even though they think she’s just joking.
She always hints that she’s stronger than me physically and emotionally and it makes me feel inferior and kind of scared of her.
Do you believe this is emotional abuse because it kinda sounds like it to me.

Patrick

Steve J asked:


I would be it was a female divorce attorney trying to rip off some poor guy who hadn’t really done anything wrong but they needed to make him look bad in front of the judge!

Outside of threats of violence, which are wrong and should be reported to the police, there is NO SUCH THING AS “mental abuse”! Every thing else is just nasty words. If you don’t like what someone says to you, leave but spare us the “emotional abuse” crap!

Steve

missyonalee asked:


I’m in intense need of help. . I have no other friends or family to turn to right now. . No one. I’m lost. .

Is this indeed emotional abuse? Or am I insane. . If it is an emotional abuse. . How do I decently get help?

My grandmother and grandfather who I lived with for years. . Have been emotionally unsupportive. . Cruel, and don’t understand a thing I have to say. Ever since I was little. . I was the child they never had before, the child they didn’t understand how to raise, the child that had the mental problems. . Ect. They’d go on the phone talking about what happened at school, or other embrassing things. My mother has had nothing to do with my life. . In the past 15 or so years. . Just off and on, she was addicting to drugs and sex. . And never got over it. . My father he has no place to live.. Constantly house jumping. . Charged of rape, women abuse, and drunk driving. . My grandma would always call them. . And give them info of my life then tell me they were going to come out here and take control of me. . Scaring me shitless. . My grandmother used to tell me she’d get me sent to juvie. . Sent to a mental ward, or even sent to a foster home because I wouldn’t listen. . I understand they have pain and problems because of age. . But when my health. . Dental health. . Self esteem .. Social. . And education fall threw the roof and all they say is we did the best we can do and leave it alone. .for months. . They’ve gotten me to a point after I dropped out in 8th grade from not being able to handle the other kids.. Had too low of self esteem and large paranoia. . They basically make me fight and yell at them while they act innocent. . Then they’ll try to softly push past me, and when I say no . . they’ll tell me I’ll be sent to jail. . Because their the one’s trying to “ softly “ force me to move. . And then get me so emotionally upset if I hit them. . It’s my fault. . . Everytime I try to get them to help me get something done, or get the house finished and livable. . Get the mold out of the sink. . Get to the dentist. . They just say I was going to do it. . [ enter date here ] and they never were. They always make me the blame, and then say they don’t. . that I’m not the blame. But they say the reason they have high stress and can’t clean is because when I’m going to yell at them. . They tell me I don’t love them, I don’t care about anyone else but myself. . And that’s not true! I love them more than they love me. . I feel horrible inside. . Everytime I try to get an answer. . . Or money. . Or even sometimes to go to a friend. . If I start crying and trying to get my way so I can have some freedom they’ll go inside my grand fathers room/upstairs you’ll hear them talking about how I just want to fight, and how I want to cause problems. . And hurt them. . And all that. I even start to name call them. . And have threatened them a few times. . But sadly it’s not me anymore, but I have no idea how to get an answer, or how to get anything solved without it. . I just did in there for months rotting in my room with no answer. . No solution. . The house is filthy, they tell me I’m 15 and I should clean it. . I should clean the bathroom. . I should this. . They pin everything on me. . They say I have no real emotional problems, and say they do. . And then they bring up their/our family members dying/cancer/problems as why they don’t feel like reminding me for a week I have an appointment. . My body pain. . My emotional pain is unimportant to them. . They think I’m able to do everything for myself. . That I’m emotionally able. . If not it’s alligator tears. . They deny ever saying that. . But they did for years..

I love living in my room, with a freely able to use laptop/internet. . . Which is why I’m scared to get a foster home/replacement home. . Also, there’s other things of acceptance like. . I’m almost 16, in 5 months. There’s a guy I like, and we know we have chemistry because of our life and experiences under emotional abuse. . That we’d do good after I was eighteen .. I’m going to work for 2 years for atleast 30,000 dollars to move there with him. . But after I told my grandmother. . [ I can’t lie. ] She told me she’d have him put in jail for luring me to move in with him. . [ that’s not the case, we had decided if we both feel the same when I’m 18, I’ll go there at my own will. But, we like playing games like fly for fun, world of warcraft. . And other mmorpgs together until then. ] Would a foster parent understand all this? Or would it be another controlling and opinion problem?

Bruce

Paul<3Deanna asked:


My husbands ex girlfriend and him have a 10 year old daughter. Mom’s best friend has emailed him letting him know that she believes the mother is emotionally abusing the child by using her as a support person and making her feel bad for having fun when she comes to visit us. The best friend doesn’t want the mother to know that she told us. We suspected anyway, but the friend confirmed the conversations. We have a court date and my husband is asking for temporary full custody in light of this information. Do we sell the best friend of the mothers out and give the judge her emails telling of the emotional abuse or do we just risk the judge believing him when he tells the judge of the abuse.
Some of the things mom does are… making the daughter take out beads from her hair that she put in at our house the moment she walked in the door and telling her never to put them in again. Just stuff like that. Her mom gets mad if she says she has fun here.
I don’t want dad to burn a bridge with the mothers best friend because she kind of keeps an eye on things with the daughter.
It’s very sad. The daughter is very immature, as the mother does not let her think for herself. The mother decides everything for her.- what to eat- how to wear her hair.
The daughter is very behind in emotional development. Perhaps because of the treatment by her mother.

Lee

Jenny asked:


Is it emotional abuse when my boyfriend calls me chunky, fat, or retarded but then just says that he is kidding and he says that he just says those things because he thinks they are funny. I know he is just kidding and doesnt really think I am fat but at the same time, it does kind of hurt my feelings. Even though he does those things, Ive told him it hurts me feelings but he continues doing it, I think its become a habit. I know he does love me and he is just kidding though. But would you consider this emotional abuse? Im just not sure because I know he is joking, but he DOES say some things would normally be considered verbally abusive (ex. if a husband yelled at her wife calling her fat) even if he is just joking.
In general, I also feel very submissive towards him. I feel like he belittles me and just generally makes me feel less than him. Like if I do something wrong he will comment and say you should have known better or something and just makes me feel stupid. I feel bad about messing up in front of him because I know he will say something about it/give me a look. Is this emotional abuse?

Tyler

writergirl523 asked:


Say you’re going out with someone for a year. You’ve definitely have had your ups and downs–there have been many red flags indicating a strong potential for emotional abuse on their end–but after some deep talking after taking a little break and promises from the other person to try to make changes, things look good for a couple months. Really good. You’re being told you’re loved all the time. You’re being told how wonderful their life is with you in it. You’re beginning to regain some trust in them.

Then, one day, this person says to you “I love you. It’s you I want to be with. You. Nobody else.’ There’s a strange twist in inflection on the ‘you.’ So, you jokingly say, ‘What? Are you thinking about being with somebody else?’ They reply, ‘Only in my head.’

Is this a comment engineered to undermine my self-esteem and confidence, or am I–as they have implied–’over-reacting?’

Is is emotional abuse?

Miranda

Zodiac *sagittarian* Man asked:


I know that there are some women who think that abuse from a man
has to be a threat only when it is physical. But that is not true at
all. Let me break this down to you. Emotional abuse can be just as
deadly and draining as physical. Why ? Because when you are
being verbally assaulted day in and day out, or talked down to like
a dog. Then you suffer from it internally, and psychologically.
It takes a toll on your health as well. And mentally you get to a place
where you do not know how to function normally in your daily life.
If you see yourself as nothing, then you will treat yourself as nothing.
Which means that one can get involved heavily into self destructive
behavior. Such as drugs, illicit sex, and alcohol. And some victims
of this abuse are sometimes suicidal. But it does take a toll on your
health, mainly your heart. Emotional abuse can cause you to go into
a deep, dark depression as well. If it persists, you become what
people call an outcast, or a shell of a person. Because you are now
immobilized, and living in doubt and fear. Emotional abuse paralyzes
one to the point where they may not even recognize their own self. Or even worse, are unable to function with the usual daily activities.
Are you with me ? Now my question is this. As you know that stress
is the number 1 killer, and this is the catalyst to serious illnesses,
that can dwell inside one for life. Why do some women think that
emotional abuse is not as legitimate as physical ?
>>> I mean why do some women think
that EMOTIONAL abuse is not as legitimate as PHYSICAL <<<<<<<

Sorry for that error. But you get what
I am saying................
Divina. Thanks. But I don't need an
English teacher my dear. I say things
the way I want to say them like everyone
else on here. By the way you must really
be bored to death. Out here correcting
people like that. Life must really suck
for you. I mean, is it that bad. I heard
of people who like attention. But you
are the definition of a disgruntled
"housewife".................. =)
Divina. You sound like a spoiled, rotten,
brat. Who cares about you anyway.
It is obvious, you need some psychological help. Go see a doctor.
You need one............

Jamie

?Krystena_420? asked:


Please give me good examples of emotional abuse…and any other abuse (besides sexual) that cannot easily be seen?
If any of you are wondering….Look at my other questions….I have friend thats being abused her name is jess i asked a question about her last nite….It’s not me thanks for any of you that may be concerned:)
I appreciate all of you that answer….all of you are so informative it’s gonna be hard to pick a best answer on this one…You guys are smart!!!….Thanks for all that helped

Anne

GreenGrasshopper asked:


Is this common? I’m certain she abused us. She does it now. When I’m around her I’m so tense I don’t know what to do! I’m an emotional basketcase of fear, worry, anger and depression, as she is also. I remember writing her a letter at age 12 about how I was hurt by the things she said/did. I even recall her getting angry at that.

But I can’t recall other specific instances of abuse. Why not?

Bethany