He’s Real asked:


I’ve been out of a relationship for a few months, but I can’t shake the feeling that I was manipulated and maybe emotionally abused. I always felt worthless and less than him, but figured it was my fault. Now that I’m looking back a little more clearly, I’m remembering things he said that hurt to think about. It’s been three months and I still can’t think about certain things, or it hurts. I wasn’t good to him on many instances, either, though most of it came from being afraid of him judging me. How can I tell if it was emotional abuse or if I’m just hurt over the breakup?
I finally broke down and called him after not speaking for a few months (I guess I was lonely). I keep replaying it over and over in my mind and can’t forgive myself for calling him.

Patrick

caiti_angel7 asked:


What constitues verbal and emotional abuse? What kinds of things would the person be saying or doing? What about in a long distance relationship?

Lee

fuji asked:


Is this emotioanl abuse?
My ex girlfriend played with me like a toy. She left me and came back twenty times. I really thought she was trying to fix her problems, so I hung in there. Each time in leaving she put me through hell. She caused me to be so afraid she was going to spilt for no reason that I would have massive anxiety about it. She knew I would stress it like crazy and at the same time have no problem splitting and putting me through this torture time and again. She and I have aprted ways now, but was this emotional abuse?

Patricia

Classic Bob asked:


I mean, seriously, if you’re not enjoying the relationship, GET OUT. There’s no need for the whining and sniffling about how he treats you. You’re the one that allows it, right?

Jamie

Lanley asked:


I’m 24 and I dated a man who basically had a fake relationship with me for almost 3 years. Just recently I stopped the abuse, and decided to seriously care about myself for a change. However, the relationship has left me with a whole mess of problems, mainly emotional, but i’ve also lost friends, effected my credit negatively, dropped a years worth of college classes, and lost my job, all while trying to manage and find SOME bit of normalcy in the relationship. It was a NIGHTMARE. I feel like I have screwed up my life to an extent now. And I hate myself because I can’t get those times or chances back. I don’t know what to do now. I feel so broken, lost, and low. I know my self esteem has been greatly effected by all the mess and deceiving in the relationship. What do I do now? How do I move on from such a disaster of an experience? I thought we were serious…..it was so unhealthy, he moved half of his belongings into my apt, thinking we were going to be living together, and he also tried to get me pregnant. Neither were successful.

I need help…..anyone have any ideas? The word SOCIOPATH describes my ex to a T by the way.

Kohan

Meru B asked:


Well the only reasons I can think of is that emotional/verbal/mental abuse does not have hard evidence to prove that someone has been abused that way. In the USA it has the fairest(sometimes) justice system that only allows hard evidence.

Like in Iraq Middle East if you accuse someone of a crime they get shot in the head no questions asked.

Just wanted to know what your opinions are on this. Thanks

Lee

Shinai asked:


Hi. i’m currently involved with a guy for a little over a yr. when we have a good time, he’s so sweet.. But when I say no to him for sex, we argue, andfor many hours. He starts using guilt trips, saying hes always been screw over and this is what he gets for being a good boyfriend. Usually, he’s decent, and looks out for my best interest, but in two weeks go by, and we cant be imtimate, his anger rises. (We dont live together) but if i say no to sex for whatever rweason, he gets so mad, he yells, cursees, punches furniture, but he doesnt touvh me. Even if we are at his house and his parents are home, he still yells at me, and curses while his mother is there. He then cries, because he is so “sexually frustrated” and continues with the guilt trips. I wanted to know if using guilt is a form of emotional abuse, and also believeing that if he doesnt have sex within a week, he’ll go crazy, and hurt someone. I already know I should leave, and I’m working on it..

Colin

. asked:


My husband often says that the way I do things are stupid or that I just doesn’t think about things. Or says that I, 125 pound (5′5″ tall) need to start working out. (looking a little chunky, he thinks) He is an angry person. Everytime something breaks or makes him mad, he yells and cusses and most all the time throws things (not at me). He has never me. Has started not initiating sex b/c he thinks I should (he says he always inititiates). On the other hand when he wants to be, he is a sweet man. Can say the nicest things and make me feel real good (until he gets mad about something else and flys off the handle). He is a good man, with determination to become “somebody” and is not lazy so he will work as hard as he can to provide.
Do you think this is emotional abuse?
Married at 18. Married for 6 1/2 years. No kids.
To tell you the truth I am scared to bring up the subject with him
Do you think that someone can be emotionally abusive to their spouse and not realize it?
I feel like I am in an emotionally abusive relationship. I have considered leaving but am afraid that I might regret it after I do. You know sometimes I can pretend like I am so secure in myself and stand up for myself but I am truly insecure. I am scared that if I do leave, will I really be happier? I am a little scared to be by myself even though I know I probably need to be.

Jade

scsspace asked:


Do they affect a person differently and is one worse than another? If yes, which order?

Pauline